The Morning After
No, this isn’t about the election or sex or anything like that. This is about deep gratefulness.
Those who have seen my fun photo album recently of both grandchildren (11 months and 13 months) coming for a visit Nov. 1-2 know what comes next.
There is the oh-so-empty house.
The toys and books strewn here and there.
The fun of bath time with an almost-toddler. The look of glee in Sam’s eyes when I resurrect one of the girls’ old bath tubs, all cleaned up for the occasion.
The house is full of poignant and throat-catching glimpses of a too-short weekend but perhaps all the more special because we can’t see our little ones or children as often as we’d like.
My mother talked about these times.
But I’m so grateful they are not in California or Oregon or Africa, thousands of miles away, like some of my friends’ grandkids. But if they were, I’m sure I’d find ways to adjust and to see them as often as we could.
It all goes back to when I went away from home for college, and then married a man from my new “home,” and well, you just don’t think about some of those things when you leave home for college or service or marry someone away from your home area.
I’m just so SO grateful to have grandchildren at all when I know friends and folks from church and relatives who never get to this stage.
This first year has not been easy for the parents (too personal to go into here), but they have persevered and all four parents just ROCK.
One daughter told me in leaving: “You’re the best mom and the best grandma—surprise surprise.”
Aw. I wouldn’t win any prizes but it was a nice thing to say.
A great way to start off this month of November when we all are reminded to be a little more grateful no matter what our circumstances. I love seeing the “Day of gratefulness” posts friends are sharing on Facebook etc. even though I have not done that publicly myself.
I’m reading Psalms right now and the Psalms rocket between “gloom, despair, and agony on me” and over-the-top gratefulness. On the grateful side there’s this:
O give thanks to the God of heaven,
for God’s steadfast love endures forever. Psalms 136:1
I want to be mindful of all these special blessings, each and every day. Thanks Sam, James, Michelle, Tanya and Doreen and spouses!
How do you work at connecting with grandchildren if they live at a distance?
What are positive things they’ve picked up from you? What are thing you hope they don’t pick up?
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